While driving on our way to a Mall, wifey and I laughed on how a radio jockey said in jest, “ang pag-ibig habang tumatagal ay tumatabang” (love as time passes by becomes less passionate) and advised the girl caller not to fall from a man’s sweet talks.
There is an element of truth to what the lady jockey advised, but I would like to point out 2 dimensions of the topic.
- Love is not all emotions and
- The passion can be kept alive inside marriage
Love Is Not All Emotions
The goose bumps in courtship will not last a lifetime, and love does not conquer all. That’s a fact. Those who believe that the magical feeling will last forever is headed for disaster. Once you are settled down, got married and living together for at least 5 years, you become more practical than magical. Children and financial obligations changes your perspective. It does not mean, however, that you are no longer in love.
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Tito Son Expectations, Issues Marriage
We would like to share to everyone the Pre-conceive ideas of Couples that build Walls and Hindrances toward a Strong Relationship as what we learned from a seminar in our church in 1992.
Find out if you agree in one of these.
Pre-conceive ideas of the Husbands toward their Wives
When the HUSBAND
- gives his opinion, he is setting things straight.
- talks on the phone, it’s an important call.
- asks the wife firmly to do something, he is showing leadership.
- repeats a request more than once, he is patiently reminding her.
- is late to an appointment with his wife, he has a good excuse.
- is late to a dinner, he was busy.
- buys something, it’s because it is essential.
- makes a mistakes on their bank account, he feels it’s no big thing.
- is sick, he deserves moment by moment attention and sympathy.
- doesn’t want to make love, he has good reasons.
- reads while she tries to discuss something, he can do two things at the same time.
- does something stupid, he feels it is an honest mistakes.
- has extra-curricular activities, he needs to realize his dreams.
- works at the church, he is doing the Lord’s work.
When His WIFE…
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Tita Nitz Expectations, Issues Marriage
When we were at Baguio, wifey requested to visit a shop known for it’s hand crafted jewelry products. Even though I have no interest on any kind of jewelries, and I don’t take pleasure on shopping, I joined them and gave my thoughts on the items they think they liked, until wifey and daughter made their choice.
You may ask “why waste your time on things that is bloody boring, isn’t it unproductive?” I agree it’s boring but it’s not necessarily unproductive. Because it is something that wifey and daughter liked, by being with them, the activity becomes productive and value adding to our relationship. To wifey, watching DVD series of Lost, Prison Break, 24 and Smallville is also boring. But at times, she sat by my side and watched with me. The activity becomes productive. Sometimes I play PS2 with my kids though I have other better things to do, the activity becomes value adding.
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Tito Son Marriage Marriage
Today is valentines, friends are asking where we intend to have a romantic dinner, I said it’ll be in a room surrounded by mirrors 
Boy, it will be expensive to go for a date today (and a little bit korni too).
Anyway, allow me to share my thoughts about love and marriage. I have been married for almost 16 years, the courtship goosebumps are no longer there, and love has evolved from a mere emotion to a commitment.
Marriage is more than a piece of paper, it is about a promise made to another person witnessed by God and other people. A promise to love even when the excitement is no longer there, a promise of exclusivity, a promise to make the marriage work inspite and despite of….
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Tito Son Marriage Marriage
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