LCM 2.0

I was kinda amazed to have visitors here, referred by search engines,   looking for topics on “break-up and letting go.”

I don’t know, maybe, there is a present need from people to find  answers as to when to keep  fighting for a relationship and when to let go. But before I give my 2 cents, please allow me to lay down my biases on courtship and marriage.

1. While I respect the opinion and choices of other people, personally I don’t believe in co-habitation because the perks and privileges of marriage comes with a responsibility.
2. Marriage and courtship are 2 different bananas– while both involves investment in time and emotions, marriage has legal and spiritual dimension. While we can easily understand the legal implication, we tend to forget that  there are actually 4 parties involve in marriage– the husband, wife, the state (legal aspect) and God (spiritual). If we will recognize the role of God in marriage, I don’t think we will mess with marriage intentionally.
3. I believe marriage can make or break a person.

Letting go, in my understanding, is giving up the relationship. It takes 2 to start a relationship and it also takes 2 to end it. Ending a relationship is far harder than starting one.  The beginning of courtship and/or marriage is exciting. Ending it is potentially damaging. But when is the best time to end?

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While driving on our way to a Mall, wifey and I laughed on how a radio jockey said in jest, “ang pag-ibig habang tumatagal ay tumatabang” (love as time passes by becomes less passionate) and advised the girl caller not to fall from a man’s sweet talks.

There is an element of truth to what the lady jockey advised, but I would like to point out 2 dimensions of the topic.

1. Love is not all emotions and
2. The passion can be kept alive inside marriage

Love Is Not All Emotions

The goose bumps in courtship will not last a lifetime,  and love does not conquer all. That’s a fact. Those who believe that the magical feeling will last forever is headed for disaster. Once you are settled down, got married and living together for at least 5 years, you become more practical than magical. Children and  financial obligations changes your perspective. It does not mean, however, that you are no longer in love.

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