LCM 2.0

While driving on our way to a Mall, wifey and I laughed on how a radio jockey said in jest, “ang pag-ibig habang tumatagal ay tumatabang” (love as time passes by becomes less passionate) and advised the girl caller not to fall from a man’s sweet talks.

There is an element of truth to what the lady jockey advised, but I would like to point out 2 dimensions of the topic.

1. Love is not all emotions and
2. The passion can be kept alive inside marriage

Love Is Not All Emotions

The goose bumps in courtship will not last a lifetime,  and love does not conquer all. That’s a fact. Those who believe that the magical feeling will last forever is headed for disaster. Once you are settled down, got married and living together for at least 5 years, you become more practical than magical. Children and  financial obligations changes your perspective. It does not mean, however, that you are no longer in love.

When the goose bumps  of courtship is gone,  commitment comes in and that is where we grow and mature. If a third party provides a spark (that perhaps bring back the goose bumps of courtship) and there is commitment, this serves as your strength to walk away from the temptation.

In the absence of commitment, marital infidelity is bound to happen.  Wounds caused by unfaithfulness takes time and much harder to heal.

The Passion Can Be Kept Alive In Marriage

Wifey and I are now married now for almost  17 years, and we went thru a lot of laughter and tears, and challenges that rocked our marriage. Marriage life is not a walk in the park,  but we chose to honor our vows to each other before God and value what we started.

A few days back, I shared via Facebook and other SNS that after  successfully completing the required Starbucks sticker, I redeemed my planner and gave it to wifey. To my amazement,  I got positive feedbacks  across social networking sites, an e buddy said in a comment “happy wifey”, I replied back “happy wife = happy life”. I thought, this simple act is supposedly ordinary between spouses but I also realized that after a while, if couples are not careful, from being cheesy, they digress to being to co manager of household, then ordinary friend, to board mates and some even become enemies.

Happy Wife = Happly Life

For husbands, this is where we can keep the passion inside marriage alive. Doing little good things can make our marriage life so fun. Going back to the basics, the little things that we are  doing for them during courtship can make our living room so much light and fun. Just as our Pastor said, a “happy living room is equal to a satisfying bed room.” These small good deeds provides the fuel to keep the passion alive. Sex becomes beautiful and satisfying, not mechanical and dry.